Why Therapy?

It’s a good question without an easy answer. The short answer is because we need it.

Frankly, our nervous systems were wired to live as nomads with a relatively small group of people – not to live in large cities, living complex lives, where we are crammed together and yet relatively isolated. It makes for a very confusing set of dynamics within ourselves, and in our relationships, that is not easily sorted out alone.

Pile on top of all of it that we live in a culture that is very image-conscious and thinks that we should have it all together regardless of the reality of our lives.

Because of this we learn to pretend to be one thing (even to ourselves) and ignore much (if not all) of the things going on inside of us.

A Trained Observer

A therapist is a trained observer. A therapist is someone who can help you see the blind spots–you may or may not know exist. A therapist is someone who can teach you how and where to look, and how to figure out what you can do with what you see.

Sometimes it is helpful to have someone who can help you do what you cannot do alone, for yourself. Because if you could have done it for yourself, you would have done it already. It is the American way after all.

Progress from Pain

In therapy, we look at things that are hard and painful to see. No doubt about that. But the pain of not looking is far more severe and has no hope of there being any change for the future.

If you are ready for things to be different, it’s time to ask for the help you need.